Spherical control is an important maturation milestone in the development of children, and accompanying them in a respectful way is essential for this stage to live positively. It is necessary to address this process with patience, respect and sensitivity towards the individual signals and needs of each child. Instead of imposing a rigid schedule, it is essential to observe and respect the indications that the child shows when ready to begin this stage.

Then I provide some details on how to accompany the sphincter control process. We will explore how to carry out a respectful sphincter control focusing on the preparation signals and how to handle the challenges that may arise.

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How to accompany the control of sphincters in a respectful way

How to know when is the time

We usually hear that the best time to withdraw the diaper is during the summer, taking advantage of the fact that children go with less clothes and have more time. The rush usually arrives to remove the diaper when the child is about to start school, because in many they are required not to wear diapers. However, the ideal moment for the withdrawal of the diaper is when each boy or girl is prepared, because it is a maturational milestone.

The age at which children are ready to begin the sphincter control process can vary widely. In general, many children begin to show signs of preparation between 2 and 3 years, but some may be ready before or later. Some signs that indicate that the child could be prepared include:

• Interest in the bathroom: The child can show curiosity about the bathroom and adult habits.
• Physical indicators: A child who can keep dry for longer periods and who can communicate the need to go to the bathroom could be ready.
• Communication Capacity: If the child is able to express that he has to go to the bathroom, either through words, signs or gestures, it is a good indicator that he is prepared.
• Body Consciousness: The child can show signs of discomfort when he has dirty or wet diaper, demonstrating a connection with body sensations.

How to accompany your child

• Make him a participant: Allows the child to be part of the process. As soon as you learn to walk, you can start making you participate in the diaper change process. Offer the possibility of getting off and getting on your pants, preparing the wipe or sponge, throwing your dirty diaper at the trash, etc.
• Appropriate clothes: Opt for clothes that are easy to remove, which will facilitate visits to the bathroom as the child acquires independence skills.
• It fosters your autonomy: sphincter control is closely related to maturative development. Offer autonomy in other areas to help you grow and mature, for example: eat alone, dress and undress for yourself, leave the bottle and suck…
• Observation and communication: Keep an open communication and look at your child's signs. Ask if you are interested in using the bathroom and encourage it to express your needs. Give it the possibility of choosing between going to the bathroom, urinal or using diaper.
• Create a positive atmosphere: Making the bathroom a comfortable and safe place is fundamental. Use a urinal, an adapter for the toilet or a stool to facilitate access.
• Model the behavior:Accompany your son by showing him how the bath is used. Imitation is a powerful learning tool for children.
• Offer Opportunities: Give your child the opportunity to use the toilet, but respect his decision if he does not feel comfortable at that time.
• Handle accidents with empathy: Escapes can be part of the process. Instead of scolding the child, keep calm and give it support. Clean with peace of mind (you can ask you to help you) and explain that it is normal and that it has happened to us all.
• Empathize and adapt yourself: Validate your feelings. If you show resistance or anxiety, listen to your concerns and adapt the strategy if necessary. Remember that each child is unique. What works for one may not be effective for another. Adjust your approach according to individual needs.